Rhode Island Divorce Tips

Posted: January 3, 2012
Author:  Divorce Attorney Jason Marks 
Source:  Noted below. 

We all have a friend (who has a friend) that stays in a bad marriage just because he (or she) can't afford the alimony that often comes along with ending the relationship. For those living in a ship-wrecked marriage, help may be on the way. If proposed alimony reform is passed by the Florida Legislature, for many it may no longer be "cheaper to keep her."

In response to sweeping reforms in other states (most recently Massachusetts and New Jersey), legislators in Florida (one of which ironically is now going through his own divorce) have recently introduced parallel bills in the Florida House and Senate that are intended to bring what many perceive to be antiquated laws concerning alimony into the 21st century.

Key provisions of the bills would limit the maximum duration of alimony based on the length of marriage; terminate alimony at full retirement age (currently 66); and cap alimony at no more than 20% of the payer's net monthly income. The most important change -- particularly for the millions of (predominantly) men serving as indentured servants to their former spouses -- is its retroactive nature, allowing a spouse the ability to go back to court to modify his or her existing orders of support in line with the parameters of the new law.

Proponents of the bill (again, mostly men) argue that the current laws concerning alimony have the effect of making former spouses ending long-term marriages "partners for life," and that the current laws fail to acknowledge the reality that in most households today, both spouses work.

Everyone has a friend who has a friend with a horror story. There is the man who works two jobs so his former spouse can avoid working while living and traveling with her new boyfriend. There is the 75 year old man who is unable to retire, and is forced to work full time to pay alimony to his former spouse 25 years after their divorce. Proponents argue that the current laws provide unequal treatment and expectations on the paying spouse, while the spouse receiving the alimony marches on (sometimes with a significant other) without any meaningful adjustment to their own lifestyle. 

Even those who don't support the pending legislation would likely agree that for most divorces, both spouses who are educated should have a responsibility to work. Long gone are the days where only one spouse provides the financial support for the family while the other stays at home to raise the children.

While most critics would acknowledge that changes to current laws are necessary, some argue that the proposed changes have taken reform too far, even accusing bill drafters of being misogynistic (since of those receiving alimony, 90% are female). Critics also claim that the passage of the proposed bill in its current form has the potential to create a welfare state for spouses who are either too old or lacking in educational and occupational qualifications to enter the work force. No doubt, critics point to their own friends who have friends with their own horror stories. 

Nevertheless, both supporters and critics agree that reform is necessary to bring current laws in line with the realities of the modern family. The question is whether or not a line should be drawn, and if so, where.

Should Florida give needy spouses alimony for a "reasonable period of time" like Rhode Island does? 

Read the whole article at The Huffington Post

Jason Marks is a divorce attorney and partner at Miami-based Kluger, Kaplan, Silverman, Katzen & Levine, P.L. and has handled a number of high-profile, high-net worth matrimonial disputes. To contact Jason, you can email him at [email protected] or call (305) 379-9000.

(All materials are either owned and/or copyrighted by Attorney Jason Marks, The Huffington Post and/or AOL or its subsidiaries.)

(Attorney Christopher Pearsall, RhodeIslandDivorceTips.com, and The Rhode Island Divorce & Coaching Institute deny all claim to any right, title, or ownership in or to any portion of this article. It is only provided partially here and credited for its fair use as a topic of interest.  It is highly recommended that all readers interested in divorce and/or alimony issues and legislation read the entire article at its source link at The Huffington Post noted above.)

In many Rhode Island divorce proceedings tensions run high and sometimes emotions as well.  Depending upon the reason for the divorce sometimes there is so much anger between the parties or simply from one party to the other that all a person can think about can be boiled down into words that easily come to mind such as:

1. Adultery

2. Treachery

3.  Cheater

4.  Entitlement

5.  Broken Promises

6.  Vindication

7.  Revenge

8.  Rejection, and many more.

With these words come very strong feelings that often spell a recipe for difficult and troubled end to the marriage in family court.  Most of which may well be valid and understandable from a counselors point of view but not when it comes to using your common sense.

What happens if you have a bitter and contested Rhode Island divorce?  Let's take a look at what usually happens in this kind of divorce.

 - Usually you lose lots of time from your work, schooling or children.  

 - Usually you spend considerable time waiting in court for your matter to be called and heard by the court over and over and over again as it drags on.

 - Usually you spend tremendous energy merely indulging your anger, anxiety and/or fears all of which may be lumped together causing your nerves to be short and your mental state to start to affect your body by developing facial worry lines, grey hair (or losing your hair altogether), grinding your teeth, and literally becoming a person who begins to become anchored in the feelings of the divorce that may not leave you until long after your divorce is over, preventing you from happily getting on with your life.

 - Usually you pay a lawyer thousands upon thousands of dollars to protect and preserve your rights with absolutely no guarantee that you will accomplish your legal, economic or even emotional goals by the end of the divorce.

 - Usually you have lost a tremendous amount of money and time in your life that you can never get back because you can't turn back the clock.

So it's not too hard to see why having the right lawyer and working toward an uncontested Rhode Island divorce is important and best for most people.  

Look how much you lose in a long contested battle!

My best friend's father was the best example of a father I ever had that honor of calling "dad" in my life.  His name was "Hugh O'Brien" and he was and always will be nothing short of a truly great man in my eyes.  He was one of the few great men I have had the privilege of knowing and as my "dad" he taught me that no matter how much in the right you may feel you are, there is almost never any reason to fight unless you are are absolutely forced to defend yourself.  I remember him saying one time that it is always better, if you can, to walk away and maintain your dignity.

I agree whole-heartedly not only in a physical fight but also in a divorce proceeding.  Yes, there are in fact times when one spouse is so unreasonable that he or she will want to deprive you of everything and you simply can't "walk away" or you won't survive.  In that kind of case, a contested divorce may become unavoidable.  If that is that case, I understand and like many other Rhode Island attorneys who practice divorce and family law I will do what needs to be done to protect you.

Yet the truth is that perhaps only 1% of all divorce cases each year are contested to that degree.

So what makes sense?  Is it better to indulge unhealthy emotions by fighting over some money and some things to the point where they affect your nerves, your appearance, your attitude, your employment, your children, the amount of money you'll have to work with at the end of the proceeding and most importantly the limited time you have on this earth simply to make a point or get a few extra things or a few extra dollars at the end?  Is it really?  If so then you'd rather pay a lawyer thousands to get this all done only to find out you really haven't gained any thing but rather you've lost what you can never get back.

What if you knew that you could get on with your life sooner and find your "soulmate" who was truly meant for you but you missed him or her never to find them again because you were in the middle of a fight with your spouse over other things in a contested divorce proceeding.

In a contested divorce proceeding, a party never wins.

An uncontested Rhode Island divorce with a lawyer determined to get you there is the best way to go. However, ultimately the only REAL WINNERS I have EVER seen in any divorce proceeding are the two parties themselves who participate in an uncontested proceeding.  Those who work together to reach an agreement and get through their proceeding amicably for themselves and their children so they can move on with their lives fairly are the only ones that WIN.

Do you want to really WIN in your divorce proceeding?  Be smart and follow what Hugh said and plan on an uncontested RI divorce with your spouse!  Do you need an uncontested RI divorce lawyer to help you?

Are you a WINNER?  Then, welcome to my Rhode Island Divorce Coaching Plan!  I created it for the WINNERS like you?  People don't need or want a lawyer who needs $10,000 to reach an end result in their case . . . and while Rhode Island divorce law even in an uncontested divorce is not easy... it can be made simple in many cases.  

I'm Rhode Island Attorney Christopher A. Pearsall and I focus my practice exclusively on Rhode Island Divorce and Coaching.  Give me a call at (401) 632-6976 and I'll be happy to set up your first low-cost session for only $135.00.

My Very Best to All of You in Your Divorce and Family Law Cases!

Men involved in difficult Rhode Island divorces, especially those involving minor children, should be aware that even when the Final Judgment enters, this does not mean that the difficulties are over.

Bart and Sheila - A Divorce and Beyond 

Bart and Sheila were married for more than twenty (20) years.  They had two children who were still minors when Bart filed for divorce.

Bart felt he tried everything to keep the marriage together but finally he couldn't take it anymore.  He felt isolated from Sheila. They weren't friends.  They weren't lovers.  They weren't even good at co-parenting.  They had grown apart.  

Bart was a fairly successful stock broker who did well for himself and his family.  Even though Sheila had a degree in chemical engineering she had grown accustomed to Mark being the sole financial provider for the family.  Sheila had no interest in working.  Bart asked her several times to find employment and help with the finances so they could pay things off and retire early.  Sheila refused.

Bart became friends with his clients Sally and Mark Jensen who came to him after the stock market began to plummet.  They asked Bart to turn things around for them and save everything they had.  

While things deteriorated in Bart and Sheila's marriage, a brokerage fluke and fast plummet in the stock market caused Mark and Sally to lose just about everything they had.  Eventually Bart exhausted all options for Mark and Sally and feeling very sympathetic to them Bart explained to them that he had done everything he could but there was nothing more that could be done.  

Without their precious nestegg, Mark and Sally no longer remained his clients.

Bart's marriage had continued it's breakdown until Bart decided he could no longer remain married to Sheila.  Bart moved out of the marital home.  In Bart's heart and mind his marriage was done except for the legal formalities.

Divorce was filed during which Bart moved residences several times.  Each time, Bart's "residence" was broken into.  Bart found his documents and computer tampered with.  Even Bart's private office was vandalized.

Bart kept in touch with Mark and Sally and found out that they were divorcing as well.  Bart began to find interest in Sally and to spend time with her.  Suddenly, both Bart and Sally found their residences broken into and a strange man following them from time to time.

Sally became understandably unnerved, perhaps more so than Bart as he struggled to simply get through his divorce and move on with his life.

Things became more extreme as Sally found her personal computer invaded.

Bart tried to brush off all the coincidental violations that seemed to relate to his divorce even though his wife and her attorney were making him miserable despite his attempts to be amicable. 

Bart found himself in court over the next year defending himself against countless bogus motions that wasted his time, cost him money, and pressed his sanity.  Bart's relationship with Sally was getting harder to keep together as Sally became more and more vocal about her belief that Sheila was behind all the invasions in her life.

Finally the Final Judgment of Divorce entered in Bart's case.  It was a small sense of freedom.  Yet Bart was pulled back into court yet again with allegations that Bart had been violent toward Sheila. 

What Might Sheila Do?

Given the scenario I presented for this Rhode Island Divorce, if Bart were to marry Sally, immediately buy a home and then bring his childen to the home for visitation, what might Sheila do?

To understand the answer to the question is it necessary that we try to understand Sheila, so let's do that.

Based upon the information we have, Sheila had grown accustomed to being taken care of by Bart.  She could do what she wanted to do whenever she wanted to do it.  If Sheila wanted to go shopping, it seems that the money was there for her to indulge herself.  If Sheila did not want to work Sheila could tell Bart that she didn't want to work.  It actually seems that financially Sheila was not required to work in order for the bills to be paid and for her to enjoy the lifestyle to which she had become accustomed.

The above account of things would indicate that Sheila had become complacent and comfortable with her life.  Everything was familiar to her, allowed her substantial control without worry, gave her a feeling of financial security, and probably her own personal belief that she was loved, attractive, and that her world was stable.

Sheila had an advanced degree and had married a man in a reputable field of business and was the mother of two children.  There is nothing to indicate that Shiela was anything but confident and comfortable with who she was and had a strong self image.  Mark had remained married to Sheila for more than 20 years which provided historic long-term support that Sheila's healthy self image was justified.

If this makes sense regarding how Sheila sees things in her marriage with Bart, let's add the Rhode Island divorce to the mix.  Bart leaves the marital home and files for divorce.  

Sheila's Mindset?

Sheila probably no longer feels loved.  More likely, Sheila feels directly rejected.  Instead of feeling comfortable and complacent, Sheila can now see her financial stability and comfortable lifestyle crumbling.  Sheila may now feel that the control she once had had been ripped from her hands.  Bart has not only said he wanted a divorce, rather he has taken an affirmative step confirming that he fully intends to proceed down that path.  Suddenly, Sheila does not know what the future will bring.  For the first time in years she has to think about things that Bart always took care of.  Sheila may no longer have the power to say that she doesn't want to work.  In fact, because of Bart's decision she literally have to get a job.

Sheila sees her comfort zone going out the window.  She may believe that Bart is ripping her very comfortable lifestyle from her.  Bart is tearing away her control.  Bart is literally yanking the stability out from under her after more than twenty years.  She no longer feels comfortable.  Sheila feels rejection, fear, panic, discomfort, and uncertainty about the future will bring and how she will survive.  

Sheila, perhaps for the first time in decades, is now being forced to deal with what many of us already deal with on a daily basis.  It could very well be that Sheila does not take responsibility for these feelings or for the breakdown of the marriage itself.  Why?  Because perhaps in Sheila's mind she has not done anything to change anything.  It is only Bart's actions that caused this change.  Sheila did not want any change and yet she is being forced into change that she may see as being out of her control.

In the end, Sheila may simply feel that Bart is at fault.  Some women see what Bart has done as personal rejection.  To Sheila, Bart has indirectly told her that she is not good enough to be with him, that she is not attractive enough to be with him, that she is substandard and she deserves better.  In essence, some women believe they are being told "you are broken."  

To a woman who has a strong sense of self, acceptance of a marital breakdown may trigger even deeper.  A woman's rationalization process does not involve logic but a rather a strong belief that it wasn't a matter of not being a good wife, mother or partner, but rather that there must be someone else.  

She may not want to believe she has in any way participated in the collapse of the marriage from her husband's view and she may hold fast to the idea that she did everything right.  If this occurs in Sheila's mind then another shift takes place.  It is a very dangerous shift which heightens Sheila's anger at Bart and any other person that Sheila believes he may have been involved in.  I call this the "Other Woman Syndrome."

Sheila's mindset may be so engrained in her complacent and comfortable lifestyle that her own self-image  refuses to take any personal responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship.  In this case, Sheila adhere's to the belief that that there MUST BE another woman.  

Sheila may go so far even to create "another woman" or imply affairs with other women to justify her divorce to herself or other people because she cannot accept that the relationship has broken down for reasons that have nothing to do with anything other than the fact that Bart is no longer happy.  Sheila may even use "another woman" to paint herself as a victim and attract sympathy and attention from the court or from others in order to replace the comfort she previously had and regain control by trying to damage Bart's image or reputation in court or in the community simply to make herself feel better.  These are only a minor way in which a woman's anger rises to the level of a scorned woman, in which case anything may be possible from a woman such as Sheila. 

In my scenario of Mark and Sheila's Rhode Island divorce, the single action of Mark's decision to leave the house, or to proceed to divorce court may cause Sheila to 

(1) become angry by Mark's rejection;

(2) become extremely fearful of what her future is going to be like;

(3) believe there is another woman and undertake measures to find any way possible to find another woman (even if there isn't one) to blame the failed marriage on;

(4) become bitter and vengeful against Sally and anyone associated with her and try to hurt her (and those associated with Sally) physically, emotionally, mentally, financially and in any way possible to "get back at" Sally for ruining her marriage and her life;

(5) become angry by Bart's attempts and/or ability to move forward with his life and want to hurt Mark as well as anyone  to make Mark feel as unstable, unsafe, and hurt inside as Sheila herself feels;

(6) neglect her children knowing it will hurt Bart to see the children hurting and try to shift the blame of the children's pain on Bart for causing their neglect by going forward with the divorce;

These are just a few of the possibilities arising from the Rhode Island divorce and the marital breakdown.

In truth, mental instability can give an indication of suicidal tendencies of the wife, killing minor children to get back at the husband and cause him guilt, a combination of the two, cutting brake lines in the ex-spouses car or the new wife of an ex-spouse, harming the children of a new spouse, physical injuries to herself as the ex-wife and countless other things which may in the mind of a person such as Sheila cause Bart pain, anguish or sorrow.   

Any evidence of instability by a wife during the course of the divorce is an indicator that future difficulties may not only arise, but may worsen.  

Understanding Bart!

Bart is not a vindictive man though he may get angry at times when truly pushed to his limit.  He is or at least tries to be optimistic and seeks only to move forward with his own life without causing others pain.  Bart looks for the best in everything around him and tries to "take everything as it comes."  Bart is a man who does not see the world as "doom and gloom" but does know that there are those sides of life that are not too pleasant.   However, men like Bart believe that moving forward with one's own life without "aggravating" or "intentionally hurting" others is the best route.  In essence, Bart rides the wave when it comes with the belief that it will eventually end and your surfboard will coast gently onto the sandy beach.  

Bart does not realize that there are those who may see his actions as hurtful even if his intentions and his actions do not outwardly show that he is in any way trying to be hurtful.  

Bart's greatest challenge in his divorce and his life perspective is that he does not consciously adopt the notion that others are vindictive and vengeful probably because he is not a vengeful or vindictive person himself. 

Non-Legal Advice

Let's assume that I already know of all the circumstances about Bart's marriage and divorce including his ex-wife's behavior, the break-ins, the person who was following him and Sally, etc.  Bart approaches me several months after his Final Judgment of Divorce has entered.  Bart tells me that he is remarried, that he just bought a house, and that he is looking forward to surprising his children by showing them their new bedrooms next weekend at the new house he and his wife bought. 

I congratulate Bart on his new marriage and the house.  Then I ask Bart if his ex-wife knows that he remarried and bought the house.  Bart says that she'll know soon enough so he didn't want to rock the boat.

As a caring person and professional I would be less than a good person or lawyer if I didn't offer this little piece of non-legal advice to Bart in such a situation.

"Bart, I don't want to dampen your spirits but you may have just started the Running of the Bulls in Spain. . . you've got a red bullseye taped to ass, and unfortunately you picked the only running shoes on the planet made entirely of solid lead."

Authored By:

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Does your Rhode Island divorce have to be difficult?  No.  

So what makes a Rhode Island divorce proceeding so difficult?

One major factor is that people make their own divorces difficult.  

Most of the time the difficulty in a divorce in Rhode Island or another state arises from any combination of ten (10) of the following factors:  

1)  Feelings of Entitlement as a result of the history with your spouse or a wrong you perceive your spouse has "done" to you;

2)  Anger toward your spouse;

3)  Resentment about your marriage itself;

4)  Bitterness toward your spouse;

5)  Desire for Revenge through your Divorce proceeding;

6)  Fear of the future after your Divorce is completed;

7)  Fear of Being taken Advantage of by their Spouse;

8)  Listening to Friends and Family who have been through a difficult, emotional or bitter divorce;

9)  Choosing the Wrong Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer; and

10) Deferring your personal judgment on issues on your life to an attorney's judgment. 

Are there other factors involved, absolutely!  However, these tend to be the greatest factors affecting a difficult and prolonged divorce that are actually caused by the people in the divorce itself.

If a person in a a divorce can remain aware of these factors and consciously try to eliminate them or keep them in check, the chances of having an easier divorce are much greater.

The question is, whether you really want a difficult, emotionally draining, extremely costly and frustrating divorce, or an easy divorce? 

Sometimes it's best to take the easy way out.

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The best RI Divorce is an amicable one.  That's my opinion of course.  Lawyers who insist on paying for their Jaguars, BMWs, boats, planes, summer homes, and much more might well disagree with me.  My humble divorce coaching and lawyering opinion here might differ on this issue because I can do without all the "stuff" they have or want that they have to pay for.
 

After all, how would a Rhode Island lawyer pay for this "stuff" and maximize their income to do so? Well, he or she could have an extremely high billable rate.  Yet that alone wouldn't do it. 
 

So what would help a Rhode Island lawyer pay for all the "stuff" he or she may need to have in their life?
 

Let me make a suggest this one word...CONFLICT.
 

Conflict causes parties to grow even further apart, fight more, require more time, require more meetings, require more court hearings, require more meetings with your lawyer, require more motion filings in your divorce case, cause more arguments and cost more money.
 

Are all Rhode Island divorces and all Rhode Island divorce lawyers like this?  Of course not!  It's not right or fair to generalize things in such a way that we're all bad or that lawyers we are all crooks.  There are plenty of good lawyers out here trying to help people but when we're looked at in this way, how can you find us if we're all crooks or liars trying to steal your money.
 

Remember, Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers and Coaches are just like you.  We have families to feed, lives to live, and bills to pay.  This is how we do it... with intense knowledge and education that we gained painstakingly over years of schooling and experience.  There is tremendous value in what we offer.
 

Do you want to really do yourself a favor?  Then read this part over and over.  It's not meant to be anything other than common sense.
 

It is your Rhode Island divorce, yours and your spouses.  It doesn't belong to the judge.  It doesn't belong to the filing spouse.  It doesn't belong to the spouse who was served papers.  And it doesn't belong to either of your lawyers if you have one.  It is both of yours!
 

When you got married you both agreed that you belonged together.  That's what your marriage was about.  You both had to agree that you belonged with each other.  If one of you didn't agree then the marriage wasn't going to happen, right?  Of course!  That's how men or women get "left at the altar" and the marriage doesn't happen.  One doesn't agree at the last minute for whatever reason.  It's a contract.
 

Now that's essentially your marriage.  It's a contract.  Now just use 10 seconds of logic instead of emotion, hatred, anger or whatever may cause the breakdown of the relationship.  Divorce is simply the realization that one or both of you coming to the conclusion . . . I don't agree that we belong together for the future.  It could be caused by anything, or nothing at all, or for all the wrong reasons.  Yet in the end the divorce can be thought of as the Rhode Island Family Court helping each of you to part company reasonably in your divorce with whatever property, etc... that you should reasonably and equitably (fairly) leave the contract with in order to continue on your separate ways and be able to survive.
 

Here are a few good Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer's Coaching tips:
 

1)  Realize that just like both of you had to agree to make your marriage work, only one of you has to disagree that being a couple at this time is agreeable for a divorce to work but the divorce belongs to both of you.  There are two parties in a marriage.  There are two parties in a divorce.  You each own both.
 

2)  You can act reasonably with one another to dissolve the contract fairly and reasonably by communicating with one another and reaching a settlement.  Or you can get angry and try to get more than you may be entitled to or try to hurt the other person and then the Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers can get wealthier while you go broke rather than simply going to a good counselor and dealing with your emotional issues separately.
 

3)  Separate the emotions you have in the relationship from the fact that the contract is needs to be dissolved and that it is to your benefit to put your emotions aside and deal with the contract in the court and with the emotions with a good therapist.
 

4)  No matter how big the marital estate is.  No matter what caused one or both parties to decide to separate their marriage contract, the best solution to every case as an amicable and reasonable settlement arrived at by the parties by their own agreement.
 

The world doesn't need to "go to hell in a hand basket" as my grandmother used to say.  There are still decent people left in this world and there are lots of them.  Sometimes they just need a little help from someone who cares.
 

Personally, I don't have a lot of "stuff."  I like a perk or two every now and then and usually get something for myself after its considered obsolete.  I buy new things when they are necessary or when it comes to running my divorce coaching practice and the necessities for my clients because other than my own marriage, my clients are my first priority.
 

If helped quite a few people.  It's very likely I can help you.  I don't want your world to go to "hell in a hand basket" or for you to go broke.
 

Call me for a paid Coaching and Advice Session at (401) 632-6976.
 

 Clients are surprised how much I can cover with them at just $135 for one hour.
 

Isn't your world worth only $135?  Then Call.

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Attorney-at-Law

Rhode Island's Full-Time Divorce* Lawyer is Now
Rhode Island's Only Divorce and Family Law Coach!!

Discover the Tremendous Benefits You Receive by 

Participating in Family Law Coaching Sessions!

Visit the RhodeIslandDivorceCoach.com

Call (401) 632-6976 Now
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Copyright 2000 to Present.  Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
 Offering Rhode Island Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching for a New Millenium!

Note: If this article contains a case scenario with names, dates or amounts, any resemblance any connection to any person or situation now or previously existing is purely accidental, unintentional, and is merely a mistaken creation in the mind of the reader.

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