Rhode Island Divorce Tips

Do you and your spouse want a simple Rhode Island divorce without the stress? 

It's as easy as 1-2 and me!  Yes, I added myself to the mix. 

Why? 

Well, right now I don't know of any other Rhode Island lawyer who offers experienced divorce coaching services other than me.  Besides that, it rhymed.  Lastly, since divorce is about as fun as pulling teeth I need to add a little humor in my articles every now and then.

Your simple divorce in Rhode Island doesn't require very much. If one spouse files the divorce action, then both spouses work out an agreement to resolve the divorce issues, and at least one spouse knows the procedure on how to get through the legal procedures from beginning to end . . . you have what's needed for a simple divorce.

So there you have my original simple divorce recipe for Rhode Island!  That's 1 spouse to file it.  Then 2 spouses to reach an agreement. Then simply meet with me to help one of you with the legalities from beginning to end. 

Those are the simple fundamentals.  You don't have to be all stressed out.  You don't have to pay lots of money to a Rhode Island divorce or family law lawyer*.

My divorce coaching practice has been designed to help you with the legalities of the process from beginning to end.

Should you each have your own lawyers in some divorces?  Sure.  Every divorce is certainly not a simple divorce.  When you come to see me you will find out the ins, the outs, the ups, and the downs of your divorce and you will know if yours is truly a simple divorce or not.  If you have a simple divorce, then my divorce coaching program is just what the doctor ordered.  You get rid of the huge expense and the massive stress that goes with a divorce. Instead, you keep things as simple as you want to keep them.

Regrettably, there aren't other lawyers offering this simple divorce coaching service right now because it's not largely profitable for the lawyers.  Yet for me it's not about making large sums of money from people.  It's about using my skills to help you and as many other people as possible.  That way, I can go to sleep knowing that I did a good thing for people, and still keep a roof over my head.

Your simple divorce can be just as trouble free as the many others I've helped since March of 2009.  This divorce coaching program has been a tremendous success.  My client's are thrilled!  Hell, I'm thrilled to have more time with my wife!   Even though I'm no "fat cat" lawyer with a fancy car, I can sleep at night knowing that as a Rhode Island lawyer I do a good thing simply by helping people with their family law challenges, including your simple divorce.

Give me a call (401) 632-6976 and set-up your $135 appointment.  You'll be surprised at how simple it can be.  After all, don't you deserve a simple, stress free divorce?

Are you curious as to why most divorce lawyers are unable to answer your divorce questions with a great degree of accuracy.  This lack of accuracy is due to several factors.  I call them the "X Factors."  Some lawyers may not discuss these factors with you, but it is important that you understand they exist.  Yet these divorce factors are just as important as the rules that govern the Rhode Island family courts themselves.

The divorce "X Factors" are simply unknown factors.  A divorce lawyer usually doesn't know or can't predict these factors at the time you ask him or her your divorce or family law questions.  These factors are extremely likely to have a substantial impact on the answer to many of your questions.

Using Rhode Island Divorce as the most common example, the "X Factors" are:

1)  The Judge that your divorce will be assigned to;

2)  Your spouse's actions or reactions during the divorce;

3)  Whether your spouse will hire a divorce lawyer and who that lawyer will be;

4)  The actions your spouse's lawyer may take during the divorce.

The Rhode Island Divorce X-Factors are crucial for clients to know and to take seriously, not just in passing because they have a great impact on your divorce as it proceeds.

As your divorce begins and all the way to its outcome, keep these factors in mind.  

Why?  

The fact is that divorce is not a fun experience even when it is as amicable as you can make it.  Most Rhode Island divorces have their bumps, road blocks, hurdles and major challenges.  Often times these things leave a client frustrated and angry. The first and most natural place where this anger gets focused is on your Rhode Island Divorce lawyer because he or she is the only part of the process that you have chosen to take you through the divorce process.  On top of everything, you are pay this lawyer to get you to the end of your divorce as quickly and easily as possible.

So what happens?  You hit those bumps, roadblocks or major challenges and you become frustrated at the only part of the process you even remotely have control of... your lawyer.  It's at this point that before you express your anger to your lawyer that you remember the X Factors.  

Remembering these factors reminds you that, there are more things outside both your control and your RI Divorce lawyer's control than there are things actually within your control.

By remembering the X Factors, you can approach your divorce lawyer and see how you can both deal with all the factors that are present and perhaps turn the situation to your advantage, rather than getting angry at your divorce lawyer and perhaps damaging your relationship with your lawyer.  A relationship between an lawyer and client in a divorce can be very touchy.  Blaming your attorney for the direction of your case when the X factors may have pushed your divorce off course can lead to a slower divorce and less communication between you and your lawyer.

For the sake of your own divorce, remember the X factors and your divorce may go much smoother.

If you are concerned about your divorce lawyer's performance in your case, feel free to call me and set up a second opinion advice session to discuss what has been done and review the important case documents.  Together we'll discuss not only the factors, but what you have seen, heard and the tact your lawyer has taken to give you appropriate feedback as to whether you need to give concern to your lawyer's performance.

Rhode Island isn't the only state that is feeling the financial pinch from the national economy, but we're feeling it well enough.

The investment market is bottoming out while the US Dollar continues to lose strength and popularity as the national currency standard.

Rhode Island has one of the highest unemployment rates in the United States and devastation from the March 2010 flood caused billions of dollars of damage to the Rhode Island economy.

Financial pressures are one of the greatest causes of marital stresses and breakdowns.  With Rhode Island companies downsizing, businesses crippled by the flood, the national market reducing once strong retirement investments to mere pennies leaving families stressed, unable to keep up with bills and forcing homes into foreclosures, shortsales and literal abandonment by some people of their homes in the hope that bankruptcy will give them financial relief from the economic downturn.

Rhode Islanders and those finding themselves subject to the Rhode Island Family Court no longer have the luxury of relying on credit extensions and payment plans to pay off attorneys over time.  In short, people are being more frugal with their monies with good reason.  

So why engage a Rhode Island divorce lawyer to be your divorce coach?

Economics!  Coaching as opposed to representation by a Rhode Island Divorce lawyer saves you money and gives you control of your finances.

Depending upon the nature of the Rhode Island coaching arrangement, the cost should always be significantly less than outright representation by the divorce lawyer.  The cost is also usually a matter within your control as the client as opposed to the divorce lawyer.  In the end, with a little resourcefulness, you obtain an education on Rhode Island Divorce law and procedure, you reduce your cost and financially improve your situation, and you end up controlling your cost on your own timeframe and not the lawyers.

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is new, innovative, is only now developing in Rhode Island.  In fact, I am the founder of the initial coaching program here in Rhode Island though new offshoots seem to be developing by one or two practitioners who find themselves challenged in a very strapped economy for some lawyers.

Whether you are looking for Rhode Island legal representation in a divorce or family law matter, the process begins the same identically for the benefit of the client and gives you the opportunity to experience the benefits of the coaching process with a minimal investment in obtaining the answers to your legal challenges.  

For the small cost of a hard drive, a leaf blower, a cheap lawnmower, or other similar small investment, you have the opportunity to sit with a profession, explain your factual circumstances and then be educated and advised on legal procedures, laws, practical courtroom treatment, and options worth considering from a highly qualified profession while saving a tremendous amount of money.

Coaching is the economical answer that works for most people in Rhode Island divorce and family law issues and it is likely to work for you.

Call me at (401) 632-6976 and find out why Rhode Island divorce and family law coaching has worked for dozens of people and why it is probably the right answer for you, too!  

It's Professional!  It's Less Expensive!  The Cost is within Your Control!  You get high quality Answers to your legal issues from a highly experienced Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Attorney/Coach!

To the Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer,

I could use a tip from you about how to stop my ex-wife and her lawyer from taking me back to court every single month for ridiculous motions just because she is upset that I got remarried.  How do I stop her from filing all these motions?

- Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

You pose one heck of a problem that I'm sure isn't limited to Rhode Island family courts but without more information I have to presume that you are just dealing with the Rhode Island family court system since I that is my jurisdiction of practice. 

As a Rhode Island lawyer I have had several cases with this problem. There is no law or court rule that sets a limit on the number of motions either party can file.  Without seeing the motions or knowing what they are about it is very hard to know how to answer your question because there may be a specific way to address all the motions if, for instance they are all repetitive or all contain a common thread.  Then the court might consider directing the party to create one motion that addresses the true issue rather than filing a motion on each little tiny issue involved in the big picture.  If this is the case, you could call all the motions to the court's attention and point out the similarities and trust that the court would provide some direction or that upon your own Motion to Strike that the court might strike a whole bunch of repetitive motions to get to the true issue.

If the court weren't inclined to strike your ex-spouse's motions for child custody, child support, visitation, change of placement or whatever all of these motions contain by your ex-spouse then, generally speaking, I can think of only one practical way to stop this flurry of motions.  Summed up in one word, it is "leverage."  

* * * LEVERAGE * * * 

What is leverage?  It is finding some information or circumstances that the ex-spouse does not want known to one or more persons or government agencies (not necessarily criminal) that you can use to your advantage to stop the ridiculousness.  For instance, perhaps your ex-spouse is on Rhode Island State Assistance because she has claimed she does not make enough money and qualifies for State aid, but you know that she lives with a boyfriend who pays the rent and takes care of other expenses.  You might mention to your ex-wife that if the motions do not stop, that you would hate to hear that she lost her state assistance because she didn't declare her boyfriend's household income or financial help to her. That factor just may be strong enough to get your ex-wife to stop the motions.

The leverage factor in Rhode Island family court is tricky.  It can work for you or have the opposite effect and intensify the situation.

It is entirely possible that there may be a very simple answer to your problem that I could come up with based upon your specific information if we were to sit down together and discuss you situation confidentially at length.  

However, if you are looking for a "one-size-fits-all" answer to your predicament, there just isn't one.  Unfortunately there isn't one that prevents the filing of numerous motions in all types of cases.

"For every challenge there is a solution if you expend the time, energy and resources necessary to come up with it."

Feel free to call me at (401) 632-6976 to set up your low-cost coaching and advice session and I'll be happy to meet with you and discuss what alternatives you may have available to you.