Many things can prevent a Rhode Island Divorce Case from settling. In fact, while I cannot speak for all attorneys in other states I tend to believe that people and attorneys do not differ that much from state to state. With that in mind, these may, in fact, be the top two things that prevent divorces from settling on a national basis.
* The 2nd Greatest Thing that Prevents Divorce Settlements *
In my Rhode Island divorce practice, experience has taught me that "anger" is the second greatest contributor to the inability of parties, with or without attorneys, to reach a reasonable settlement in a divorce.
While divorce often evokes a plethora of emotions in one or both parties in a marriage, none seem as prominent or as powerful to delay and prolong the resolution of the divorce as "anger." The anger may stem from any number of things ranging from a suddenly discovered long-term affair to a drug or gambling addiction and more. As a divorce attorney I leave the treatment of a parties' anger to psychologists and therapists better equipped to address and treat its source and help divorcing parties deal with their mental and emotional dilemmas.
However, there is no doubt that as a divorce lawyer, I (and my colleagues) deal with the effects that the anger of either party has on the divorce proceeding. These effects range from emotion filled meetings with angry clients who feel cheated and betrayed by their spouse to the vindictive decisions or actions of an opposing spouse with an outright desire to injure the other spouse emotionally or even physically.
Divorce settlements are often prevented by the anger of one spouse at the other spouse. Usually this takes the form of one or both spouses making demands in the settlement of their marriage that in some way justify the party's feelings or otherwise vindicate the spouse in some way by gaining more in the way of an apportionment of assets or less in the way of an assignment of marital debt. Simply put this becomes a matter of getting something that makes the spouse feel that he or she "won" in some way over the other spouse.
In truth, there are no real winners in such a situation. The anger merely costs the parties more physical, mental and emotional turmoil than is necessary and the attorneys make more money while the parties have less money in the end for their own needs.
Even if one party views the divorce trial or settlement as a "win", it is merely an illusion. No one wins in a divorce. The only way to truly win is to resolve the issues you have at present and move on to a new and different future without the other person as your spouse.
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