Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall

A Lawyer who Hates Lawyers? What is this RI Divorce Lawyer Really Saying?

Today, I am a Rhode Island lawyer focusing my practice on divorce and divorce coaching.  Looking back decades ago I remember another lawyer who had been practicing in another state for some 40+ years who said something that perplexed me.

* * * Remembering the Lawyer who Hated Lawyers! * * *

The lawyer was about as true, honorable, and generous a gentleman as I have ever met.  He had all the qualities I envisioned a good lawyer would have.  He truly cared about each of his clients.  He fought for each one within the bounds of the law, within his professional code of ethics, and with a high degree of morality. The lawyer knew that I greatly admired him as both a person and as a lawyer.

One extremely hot summer afternoon this lawyer returned to his office after losing a district court hearing.  He plopped himself down in the chair at the opposite end of the short conference room table I was sitting at in his office law library.  His secretary nervously brought him a lemonade and napkin then quickly skirted out of the room.  There was an endless silence.  

Finally, I spoke, 

Chris:  "I'm considering becoming a lawyer."

The lawyer lifted his head, wiped his brow with a napkin, grabbed a nearby law book and flung it across his law library breaking the law book's spine.

It was one of the first times I had ever seen this man so upset.

I was quiet until the lawyer spoke.

Lawyer:  I HATE LAWYERS!

This time the pause was endless yet I was just too puzzled not to speak.

Chris:  "I don't understand!?!  You ARE a lawyer."

The lawyer was quiet again, so I asked it as a question.

Chris:  "How can you hate lawyers when you ARE one? 

The lawyer waited quite awhile before speaking.

Lawyer:  Chris, if you're anything like me, you'll understand when you get there. 

The conversation ended.

* * * 20 Years Later We Agree * * *

I've been working in the legal field now for more than 20 years since that conversation.  

As a Rhode Island lawyer, I am bound by a Professional Code of Ethical Conduct among other things.  There are things that I shouldn't say or do and there are things that I can't say or do despite the right to Free Speech guaranteed to all of us by the United States Constitution.  The layperson would be amazed. 

* * * A Message for Roger * * *

For a point of reference only, the lawyer's name was Roger.

Hopefully he's still alive and hopefully he is in tune enough with today's "internet" that he reads this article.

First, to this great lawyer.

Roger, I was like you.  I understand!

* * * A Message for Readers * * *

Now, to my readers I offer this.

You may not understand this statement until you meet with me.

If you like lawyers, you probably won't like me.

With that said, I can tell you that as a Rhode Island Lawyer who has focused my practice exclusively in the area of divorce and family law, I cannot make your problems go away.  No lawyer can!  Yet some lawyers may tell you they can to get you as a client.

Lawyers can't make your problems go away because fundamentally they are your problems.  Only you can take responsibility for those challenges in your life.  Only you truly have the power to resolve those challenges by your decisions.

However, I can tell you that I can help you understand and get through your Rhode Island divorce or family law challenges by working with you either as your Coach or as your Representative.

* * *  Your Divorce Coaching Program * * *

Roger's words were invaluable.  Today, they are the powerful force motivating the continued growth of your Family Law Coaching program.  

I call it Your Program because it is designed specifically for you.  It is designed to teach you, train you, advise you, inform you, and save you time and money in the areas of divorce and family law.

As Your Coaching Program continues to evolve, it will continue to work faster for you, become more economical for you, and become more helpful for you.

Whatever you choose to believe, there is one thing you can know with certainty. I am one lawyer trying to make a difference for YOU with a new and innovative way of practice designed by hard work, my belief that you can do more than you believe you can at this moment, and your willingness to be open to something new that works. 

What can Your Coaching Program help you with?  Here is a brief list . . .

Rhode Island Divorces & Legal Separations, Rhode Island Child Support Establishment, Modifications, Collections and Terminations, Rhode Island Child Custody Matters and Child Custody Modifications, Rhode Island Petitions to Enforced Marital Settlement Agreements and Property Settlement Agreements, Preparing Pre-Nuptual Agreements and Ante-Nuptual Agreements in Rhode Island, RI Petitions to Move Out of State with Minor Children, Petitions to Establish Paternity in Rhode Island, Rhode Island Motions to Adjudge In Contempt and Defense of those Contempt Motions, Protection from Abuse Petitions and Defense Against Such Petitions, Rhode Island Motions and Petitions to Establish, Modify or Terminate Visitation, RI Common Law Divorces and their Defense, Rhode Island Legal Rights, Rhode Island Family Court Procedures, 2nd Opinions about your Attorney on Rhode Island Divorce Cases, Pro Se Representation (i.e. Representing Yourself Appropriately in Family Court), and many more . . . 

Look for the Testimonials Section about Your Coaching Program which is coming soon.  Feel Free to Call Me for a low-cost Coaching Session!

Attorney Christopher A. Pearsall - Phone: (401) 632-6976

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching - Knowing Your Rights and Saving Yourself Money Just Makes Sense!

If you have never heard of Rhode Island Divorce Coaching that's completely understandable.

I'm the founder of this new innovation in Rhode Island family law practice and I tell you that I doubt I've been more excited about any other professional development in my entire career. 

Why am I excited? 

After more than two decades in the legal field and considerable thought about how I can more effectively help people as a divorce and family law lawyer, I have no doubt that I have found my way to making a difference in the world that has been too long in coming.

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is a term that is well-suited to this new concept in domestic law practice.  I specifically designed this method of practice to save Rhode Island Family Court participants both time and money.  

Aren't these are two things just about everyone could use more of these days? 

Absolutely!

This new divorce and family law practice concept is also designed to help assist the Rhode Island family court system to handle its daily court calendars  by preventing the delay and bottlenecking caused by individuals who attempt to represent themselves (pro se) and are unfamiliar with the family court process by educating those people.

I learned long ago that for any idea is to be successful, there must be a "need" and a "solution that meets that need."
 

* * THREE FUNDAMENTAL FACTORS * * 

 The need for Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is based upon three (3) fundamental factors.

1)  The Rhode Island Family Courts have a limited number of judges who struggle to handle an overflowing number of cases on a daily basis.  

2)  People who represent themselves typically do not know Rhode Island family law or procedure and take up extended court time trying to represent themselves because they don't know what they are doing.  This bogs down the flow of court cases and hurts the entire system through inefficiency.

3)  Lastly, not everyone can afford to hire an attorney to represent him or her in family court.

* * THE NEED THAT CRIES OUT FOR A SOLUTION * *

 These three factors create the substantial need for a solution that, 

(1) Minimizes the strain placed upon the already overburdened Rhode Island Family Courts,

(2) Prevents people who represent themselves from bogging down the court system through lack of knowledge,

(3)  Affords those who cannot afford to hire a "Rhode Island courtroom attorney" the opportunity to become informed about their legal rights and learn how they might best proceed to help themselves and the courts.

  * * RHODE ISLAND DIVORCE COACHING IS . . . THE SOLUTION  * * 

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching provides the solution to this ever-growing need by offering a service never offered by Rhode Island Family Law Lawyers.

The concept of "coaching" is far from new.  Almost every sports team has one or more coaches.  These coaches are generally people who have already "played the game" and by their education, knowledge or personal experience have gained skills about the game that makes their coaching advice worthy of being followed by the athlete's they teach and train.  

Athletes like to win at different levels.  Some athletes want to be the best athlete in high school to get a scholarship.   Some athletes want to be the best at college football to have a chance to get drafted by the NFL.  Other athletes want to reach the Olympics.  To achieve these things athletes would hire experienced and even professional coaches depending upon their level of commitment and particularly what they can afford.

For any game to run smoothly, the player's need to know the fundamentals, the player's need to avoid running over referees or fighting with umpires, and the player's need to learn the rules and strategies of their game. . . all from their coach.  It is only by increasing their knowledge, skill and experience by applying advice they receive from their coach that players do better and the game runs smoothly.

Certainly, matters before the Rhode Island Family Courts are not games.  The outcome of every case has impact on the lives of everyone involved in the case.  Yet the principles that apply to a game situation can be reasonably applied to family court matters by way of analogy.

As an experienced Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer, I have had the opportunity to appear in the family courts for many years, handling motions, conferences and trials, etc. . . I saw the need.  People who represented themselves needed affordable access to the fundamentals of family court education and legal advice.  Today I'm filling that need as a Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coach.

* *  SO WHAT HAS CHANGED? * *

As a coach, I educate and teach my clients how the specific legal game they are in is played.  I teach the client about his or her legal rights.  As a client I coach you how to prepare court forms, necessary procedures, and possible strategies you will want to consider.

* * WHAT DOES THIS DO? * * 

This shifts my role as the player in the game itself, to being the coach for the person who represents himself or herself before the court because there isn't enough money to pay a $2,500 retainer upfront and $250 per hour.

Instead, a person hires me for a single coaching session or for as many sessions as the client needs me.  There is no upfront retainer.  My Rhode Island Divorce Coaching concept eliminates the immediate financial drain on the client.  Additionally, because divorce coaching eliminates my need to go to court for the client, the cost to the client is tremendously reduced.  The person pays for my session time when we meet and that is it.  The person is my client and our sessions are confidential and covered by the attorney-client privilege.  The client then schedules one or more sessions for additional coaching if and when he or she needs further assistance, all at the client's discretion.

By coaching the client, I educate him or her so that it lessens any strain on the court system when the client goes to court because the client is now more informed and has the information necessary to address the matter in a proper and efficient manner.  This helps the client to make sure that his or her case does not bog down the court's calendar because he or she is better prepared to address the case before the court.

By shifting from a Rhode Island Family court practice in the courtroom to a Rhode Island Divorce Coaching practice in the conference room, I provide the ability for more more people to gain affordable access to their legal rights and how they should proceed.  The shift to Divorce Coaching helps the client and assists the Rhode Island Family Courts by educating people who simply can't afford to hire an attorney to represent themselves in court.

Though it may sound cliche', I became a lawyer to help people.  The only ingredient this new shift  required on my part was a small tradeoff.  Today I have substantially less income in exchange for substantially more time with my wife, my daughter and my grandchildren.  All in all, it's a win-win-win proposition for the client, the court and for me!

You can be part of this winning new family law practice concept and it would be my privilege to help you.

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Attorney-at-Law

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Rhode Island Divorce Tips: Inconsistencies Part III

Perhaps one of the more frustrating things that occurs a bit more often than it should is an inconsistency with judges that can be identified as:

3.  Judges can render inconsistent decisions or provide inconsistent direction in a case not only when presented with the same fact pattern but even when presented with the same case!

As an attorney here in Rhode Island who has chosen, for good or for bad, to practice in the area of divorce and family law, this is perhaps the biggest inconsistency to address and/or explain to a client.

I've had the displeasure of being before several judges assigned to cases for my clients.  One month an issue is raised and the court will be wholly in favor of my client.  The next month, the opposing attorney will raise the issue again and the next moment the court will be chastising or scolding my client's conduct though it had already been discussed.

If you want a true challenge, try explaining to a client one month how things went well for his or her case and then in the next month how things took a complete turn around on the same issue.

In point of fact it is ridiculous and it makes it appear as though as the attorney for the client I have botched something up in a big way on an issue that may be very important to the client, when in fact, the Judge has simply been inconsistent in the way in which he manages his or her cases, be it through record keeping, or just taking notes.

However, you see it and whatever you call it, it is inconsistencies that there should be a remedy for and it does an injustice to our citizenry and those who come before our Rhode Island Family Court System.

Authored by:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
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