Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall

Is Rhode Island Divorce Coaching the same as Rhode Island Divorce Mediation?

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is a new concept but it is not to be confused with RI Divorce Mediation.

Rhode Island Divorce Mediators provide an atmosphere and services that facilitate the parties in a divorce to be able to reach an agreement for use in a divorce.  The agreement is typically called a Marital Settlement Agreement or Property Settlement Agreement.

In a Rhode Island Divorce one of the most crucial aspects of reaching a successful conclusion is arriving at some type of settlement agreement with your spouse. If you and your spouse are able to reach a settlement agreement then that is perhaps the greatest hurdle you will face in the RI Divorce process.

Rhode Island Divorce Mediators focus their efforts almost invariably on the settlement aspect of the RI Divorce Process though each divorce mediator may do so in a slightly different way.

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is designed to assist you through the divorce process.  It is helpful both in an a contested and in an uncontested Rhode Island Divorces.  The statistically the greatest successes in Rhode Island Divorce Coaching have occurred in uncontested divorce proceedings when the parties are intent upon resolving their divorce matter and the spouses are capable of peaceful communication between one another to reach an agreement about how their marriage should be resolved at the divorce hearing in each of its aspects.  In this way Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is the most economical process for resolution of a Rhode Island Divorce.

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is not equivalent to Rhode Divorce Mediation, nor does it simulate it in any way.  In Rhode Island Divorce Mediation the goal is to reach, in the least, a Memorandum of Understanding, which to some degree memorializes what the spouses agree to regarding the major aspects of their RI Divorce Agreement (i.e. their Marital Settlement Agreement or Property Settlement Agreement).

Rhode Island Divorce Mediators have both spouses as their clients and act as a facilitator of the settlement process by using their skills in reaching an agreement between the spouses by mediating an agreement that works for each spouse to resolve the divorce.

As a Rhode Island Divorce Coach I have one client.  It is the person who comes to me for coaching and legal advice.  The objective of the RI Divorce Coaching is usually (1) to obtain legal advice and counsel regarding their legal rights in the stated situation, and/or (2) receive coaching about the pros and cons of various legal and non-legal options and issues involved, and/or (3) direction regarding how the legal procedure works based upon the stage of the RI divorce process the person has encountered, and/or (4) coaching about what might be the best approach to take in the divorce based upon the facts and/or law present at the time the Rhode Island Divorce Coaching is provided.

As a Rhode Island Divorce Coach I sometimes sit with both spouses in a divorce to reach a Marital Settlement Agreement.  However, I do so with the clear understanding that I do, in fact, represent one party's interests and have only one party as my client.  The other spouse present typically acts on their own without an attorney though that spouse certainly has the opportunity to engage an attorney to be present and represent him or her during the entire divorce process or simply to participate in a limited capacity during any settlement discussions.

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching in amicable divorces works most effectively when trust and communication still remains between the parties such that the husband and wife in the divorce both know that even if a lawyer is involved for one of the parties, that lawyer works at the request of the husband or wife (whoever may be the attorney's client) and that if the divorce lawyer is told by the spouse/client to follow his or her directions rather than what the divorce lawyer may indicate is the best option, then it is the lawyer's obligation to follow the reasonable directions of his client provided it is not illegal, in violation of the divorce lawyer's ethical obligations, or otherwise creates an insurmountable conflict of interest.

In a very general way the easiest way to understand Rhode Island Divorce Mediation is that the focus is on the agreement in the divorce to be reach by the spouses, both of whom are clients of the RI Mediatior.  In Rhode Island Divorce Coaching the focus is on the entire process of divorce from the filing, to the agreement, and through the entry of the Final Judgment of Divorce depending upon the client's specific needs, however the Rhode Island Divorce Coach has only one of the two spouses as a client.

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Attorney-at-Law

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* The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all attorneys in the general practice of law.  The court does not license or certify any lawyer as an expert or specialist in any particular field of practice.

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Are You Headed Toward a Rhode Island Divorce? Make RI Divorce Amicable!

The best RI Divorce is an amicable one.  That's my opinion of course.  Lawyers who insist on paying for their Jaguars, BMWs, boats, planes, summer homes, and much more might well disagree with me.  My humble divorce coaching and lawyering opinion here might differ on this issue because I can do without all the "stuff" they have or want that they have to pay for.
 

After all, how would a Rhode Island lawyer pay for this "stuff" and maximize their income to do so? Well, he or she could have an extremely high billable rate.  Yet that alone wouldn't do it. 
 

So what would help a Rhode Island lawyer pay for all the "stuff" he or she may need to have in their life?
 

Let me make a suggest this one word...CONFLICT.
 

Conflict causes parties to grow even further apart, fight more, require more time, require more meetings, require more court hearings, require more meetings with your lawyer, require more motion filings in your divorce case, cause more arguments and cost more money.
 

Are all Rhode Island divorces and all Rhode Island divorce lawyers like this?  Of course not!  It's not right or fair to generalize things in such a way that we're all bad or that lawyers we are all crooks.  There are plenty of good lawyers out here trying to help people but when we're looked at in this way, how can you find us if we're all crooks or liars trying to steal your money.
 

Remember, Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers and Coaches are just like you.  We have families to feed, lives to live, and bills to pay.  This is how we do it... with intense knowledge and education that we gained painstakingly over years of schooling and experience.  There is tremendous value in what we offer.
 

Do you want to really do yourself a favor?  Then read this part over and over.  It's not meant to be anything other than common sense.
 

It is your Rhode Island divorce, yours and your spouses.  It doesn't belong to the judge.  It doesn't belong to the filing spouse.  It doesn't belong to the spouse who was served papers.  And it doesn't belong to either of your lawyers if you have one.  It is both of yours!
 

When you got married you both agreed that you belonged together.  That's what your marriage was about.  You both had to agree that you belonged with each other.  If one of you didn't agree then the marriage wasn't going to happen, right?  Of course!  That's how men or women get "left at the altar" and the marriage doesn't happen.  One doesn't agree at the last minute for whatever reason.  It's a contract.
 

Now that's essentially your marriage.  It's a contract.  Now just use 10 seconds of logic instead of emotion, hatred, anger or whatever may cause the breakdown of the relationship.  Divorce is simply the realization that one or both of you coming to the conclusion . . . I don't agree that we belong together for the future.  It could be caused by anything, or nothing at all, or for all the wrong reasons.  Yet in the end the divorce can be thought of as the Rhode Island Family Court helping each of you to part company reasonably in your divorce with whatever property, etc... that you should reasonably and equitably (fairly) leave the contract with in order to continue on your separate ways and be able to survive.
 

Here are a few good Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer's Coaching tips:
 

1)  Realize that just like both of you had to agree to make your marriage work, only one of you has to disagree that being a couple at this time is agreeable for a divorce to work but the divorce belongs to both of you.  There are two parties in a marriage.  There are two parties in a divorce.  You each own both.
 

2)  You can act reasonably with one another to dissolve the contract fairly and reasonably by communicating with one another and reaching a settlement.  Or you can get angry and try to get more than you may be entitled to or try to hurt the other person and then the Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers can get wealthier while you go broke rather than simply going to a good counselor and dealing with your emotional issues separately.
 

3)  Separate the emotions you have in the relationship from the fact that the contract is needs to be dissolved and that it is to your benefit to put your emotions aside and deal with the contract in the court and with the emotions with a good therapist.
 

4)  No matter how big the marital estate is.  No matter what caused one or both parties to decide to separate their marriage contract, the best solution to every case as an amicable and reasonable settlement arrived at by the parties by their own agreement.
 

The world doesn't need to "go to hell in a hand basket" as my grandmother used to say.  There are still decent people left in this world and there are lots of them.  Sometimes they just need a little help from someone who cares.
 

Personally, I don't have a lot of "stuff."  I like a perk or two every now and then and usually get something for myself after its considered obsolete.  I buy new things when they are necessary or when it comes to running my divorce coaching practice and the necessities for my clients because other than my own marriage, my clients are my first priority.
 

If helped quite a few people.  It's very likely I can help you.  I don't want your world to go to "hell in a hand basket" or for you to go broke.
 

Call me for a paid Coaching and Advice Session at (401) 632-6976.
 

 Clients are surprised how much I can cover with them at just $135 for one hour.
 

Isn't your world worth only $135?  Then Call.

 

Authored By:

 

Christopher A. Pearsall, Attorney-at-Law

Rhode Island's Full-Time Divorce* Lawyer is Now
Rhode Island's Only Divorce and Family Law Coach!!

Discover the Tremendous Benefits You Receive by 

Participating in Family Law Coaching Sessions!

Visit the RhodeIslandDivorceCoach.com

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Schedule Your Low-Cost Rhode Island Divorce* or Family Law* Coaching Session!

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Copyright 2000 to Present.  Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
 Offering Rhode Island Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching for a New Millenium!

Note: If this article contains a case scenario with names, dates or amounts, any resemblance any connection to any person or situation now or previously existing is purely accidental, unintentional, and is merely a mistaken creation in the mind of the reader.

* The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all attorneys in the general practice of law.  The court does not license or certify any lawyer as an expert or specialist in any particular field of practice.

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Amicable, Simple, Affordable Rhode Island Divorces are Possible without Lawyers!

Yes, amicable, simple and affordable Rhode Island Divorces are possible without lawyers.

It's true.   Now when I mean that these kinds of  Rhode Island Divorces are possible without the involvement of lawyers I am talking about without a lawyer representing the parties in the courtroom.

Now, I will admit that I probably sit with the minority of Rhode Island lawyers here when I take this position.  Heck, I may even be willing to agree that most other lawyers would not agree with me on this statement at all.  In fact, I may be one lawyer standing out here all alone in an open sea of lawyers giving people hope of the thought of a theme of "lawyers not required" without a single strand of support from a RI family law judge or any other Rhode Island lawyer at all on this position.

In actuality, I can easily see why RI Family Court judges and my fellow Rhode Island lawyers, and particularly fellow divorce attorneys, might have the initial reaction that I am in some sense slandering my profession, belittling what we do, or taking instant offense to my proposition.  Yet I would hope that the more learned colleagues in the profession would consider their actual response rather than merely react to what the initial gut reaction might be.

Notwithstanding any response however, you won't find me wavering one iota from taking the position that people can often do much better representing themselves in a divorce then engaging any one of our thousands of Rhode Island attorneys in our small state.

The fact is, if you extract lawyers who make money from both parties from the divorce scenario, you get two people who have more finances to divide and a better chance to move forward because they do.  That's one plus in favor of not involving lawyers.

Also, if you consider the fact that by and large more nominal cases are reached with an agreement by the actual nominal date assigned by the court when the parties reach an agreement on their own.

Does that mean that I believe there is little or no value in the education or knowledge that we as Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers and Judges have?

Absolutely not!  

What it does mean, is that I believe that a bit too often in the pursuit of careers and sometimes income that there are divorce and family law professionals who,

1)  create issues where they could just as easily resolve them;

 2)  cause conflict when they could establish harmony;

3)  destroy family relationships when they could save or strengthen them;

3)  extend a case and bill clients more when they could simplify the and charge significantly less;

or

4)  assist in ending a marriage when they could save that marriage.
 

Until we as Rhode Island divorce lawyers refocus our energies on the people we serve in such a way that we end conflict peacefully, amicably, and quickly using both legal skills and personal relationship skills, we will never be able to resolve a divorce and preserve a family as quickly, affordably, simply, and as stress free as two spouses who can still communicate with one another.

Yes, amicable, simple, affordable Rhode Island divorces are possible if two people can still talk to one another reasonably in an adult manner, with the help from a Rhode Island Divorce Coach who can economically help them through the process without representing either one of them in court.

It's not only possible, it happens all the time through my office.  All it takes to get started is that first call.  So what are you waiting for?

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Attorney-at-Law

Rhode Island's Full-Time Divorce* Lawyer is Now
Rhode Island's Only Divorce and Family Law Coach!!

Discover the Tremendous Benefits You Receive by 

Participating in Family Law Coaching Sessions!

Visit the RhodeIslandDivorceCoach.com

Call (401) 632-6976 Now
to
Schedule Your Low-Cost Rhode Island Divorce* or Family Law* Coaching Session!

Experience the Difference!

Copyright 2007 to Present.  Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
 Offering Rhode Island Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching for a New Millenium!

* The Rhode Island Supreme Court licenses all attorneys in the general practice of law.  The court does not license or certify any lawyer as an expert or specialist in any particular field of practice.

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A Lawyer who Hates Lawyers? What is this RI Divorce Lawyer Really Saying?

Today, I am a Rhode Island lawyer focusing my practice on divorce and divorce coaching.  Looking back decades ago I remember another lawyer who had been practicing in another state for some 40+ years who said something that perplexed me.

* * * Remembering the Lawyer who Hated Lawyers! * * *

The lawyer was about as true, honorable, and generous a gentleman as I have ever met.  He had all the qualities I envisioned a good lawyer would have.  He truly cared about each of his clients.  He fought for each one within the bounds of the law, within his professional code of ethics, and with a high degree of morality. The lawyer knew that I greatly admired him as both a person and as a lawyer.

One extremely hot summer afternoon this lawyer returned to his office after losing a district court hearing.  He plopped himself down in the chair at the opposite end of the short conference room table I was sitting at in his office law library.  His secretary nervously brought him a lemonade and napkin then quickly skirted out of the room.  There was an endless silence.  

Finally, I spoke, 

Chris:  "I'm considering becoming a lawyer."

The lawyer lifted his head, wiped his brow with a napkin, grabbed a nearby law book and flung it across his law library breaking the law book's spine.

It was one of the first times I had ever seen this man so upset.

I was quiet until the lawyer spoke.

Lawyer:  I HATE LAWYERS!

This time the pause was endless yet I was just too puzzled not to speak.

Chris:  "I don't understand!?!  You ARE a lawyer."

The lawyer was quiet again, so I asked it as a question.

Chris:  "How can you hate lawyers when you ARE one? 

The lawyer waited quite awhile before speaking.

Lawyer:  Chris, if you're anything like me, you'll understand when you get there. 

The conversation ended.

* * * 20 Years Later We Agree * * *

I've been working in the legal field now for more than 20 years since that conversation.  

As a Rhode Island lawyer, I am bound by a Professional Code of Ethical Conduct among other things.  There are things that I shouldn't say or do and there are things that I can't say or do despite the right to Free Speech guaranteed to all of us by the United States Constitution.  The layperson would be amazed. 

* * * A Message for Roger * * *

For a point of reference only, the lawyer's name was Roger.

Hopefully he's still alive and hopefully he is in tune enough with today's "internet" that he reads this article.

First, to this great lawyer.

Roger, I was like you.  I understand!

* * * A Message for Readers * * *

Now, to my readers I offer this.

You may not understand this statement until you meet with me.

If you like lawyers, you probably won't like me.

With that said, I can tell you that as a Rhode Island Lawyer who has focused my practice exclusively in the area of divorce and family law, I cannot make your problems go away.  No lawyer can!  Yet some lawyers may tell you they can to get you as a client.

Lawyers can't make your problems go away because fundamentally they are your problems.  Only you can take responsibility for those challenges in your life.  Only you truly have the power to resolve those challenges by your decisions.

However, I can tell you that I can help you understand and get through your Rhode Island divorce or family law challenges by working with you either as your Coach or as your Representative.

* * *  Your Divorce Coaching Program * * *

Roger's words were invaluable.  Today, they are the powerful force motivating the continued growth of your Family Law Coaching program.  

I call it Your Program because it is designed specifically for you.  It is designed to teach you, train you, advise you, inform you, and save you time and money in the areas of divorce and family law.

As Your Coaching Program continues to evolve, it will continue to work faster for you, become more economical for you, and become more helpful for you.

Whatever you choose to believe, there is one thing you can know with certainty. I am one lawyer trying to make a difference for YOU with a new and innovative way of practice designed by hard work, my belief that you can do more than you believe you can at this moment, and your willingness to be open to something new that works. 

What can Your Coaching Program help you with?  Here is a brief list . . .

Rhode Island Divorces & Legal Separations, Rhode Island Child Support Establishment, Modifications, Collections and Terminations, Rhode Island Child Custody Matters and Child Custody Modifications, Rhode Island Petitions to Enforced Marital Settlement Agreements and Property Settlement Agreements, Preparing Pre-Nuptual Agreements and Ante-Nuptual Agreements in Rhode Island, RI Petitions to Move Out of State with Minor Children, Petitions to Establish Paternity in Rhode Island, Rhode Island Motions to Adjudge In Contempt and Defense of those Contempt Motions, Protection from Abuse Petitions and Defense Against Such Petitions, Rhode Island Motions and Petitions to Establish, Modify or Terminate Visitation, RI Common Law Divorces and their Defense, Rhode Island Legal Rights, Rhode Island Family Court Procedures, 2nd Opinions about your Attorney on Rhode Island Divorce Cases, Pro Se Representation (i.e. Representing Yourself Appropriately in Family Court), and many more . . . 

Look for the Testimonials Section about Your Coaching Program which is coming soon.  Feel Free to Call Me for a low-cost Coaching Session!

Attorney Christopher A. Pearsall - Phone: (401) 632-6976

Work Out Your Divorce or You're Subject to the Men and Women in Black!

If I've learned anything as a lawyer after practicing Rhode Divorce daily for all these years it is this:

It is best to settle your divorce either with or without a lawyer.  Why?  It is really a matter of practical common sense.  Your divorce will take into account your life, your assets, your debts and especially the lives of your children. 

Do these things mean anything to you?

Now, there are only two options to resolve your divorce.  Either you resolve your divorce with your spouse, or you spend time and money on a divorce lawyer and go to trial where a family court in a robe who does not know you or your family, who must remain impartial, and who has a variety of other cases to hear . . . determine what will have to you and everything you have in your life.

Option #1: You have control over settling your case.

Option #2:  You do not have control over your life to the men and women in black.

Which option sounds better to you for your Rhode Island Divorce?  Would you rather have a choice about your family and your belongings or would you rather put it in the hands of a judge who impartially considers the evidence and renders a decision?

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall
Attorney-at-Law
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West Warwick, RI 02893

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