Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall

A Lawyer who Hates Lawyers? What is this RI Divorce Lawyer Really Saying?

Today, I am a Rhode Island lawyer focusing my practice on divorce and divorce coaching.  Looking back decades ago I remember another lawyer who had been practicing in another state for some 40+ years who said something that perplexed me.

* * * Remembering the Lawyer who Hated Lawyers! * * *

The lawyer was about as true, honorable, and generous a gentleman as I have ever met.  He had all the qualities I envisioned a good lawyer would have.  He truly cared about each of his clients.  He fought for each one within the bounds of the law, within his professional code of ethics, and with a high degree of morality. The lawyer knew that I greatly admired him as both a person and as a lawyer.

One extremely hot summer afternoon this lawyer returned to his office after losing a district court hearing.  He plopped himself down in the chair at the opposite end of the short conference room table I was sitting at in his office law library.  His secretary nervously brought him a lemonade and napkin then quickly skirted out of the room.  There was an endless silence.  

Finally, I spoke, 

Chris:  "I'm considering becoming a lawyer."

The lawyer lifted his head, wiped his brow with a napkin, grabbed a nearby law book and flung it across his law library breaking the law book's spine.

It was one of the first times I had ever seen this man so upset.

I was quiet until the lawyer spoke.

Lawyer:  I HATE LAWYERS!

This time the pause was endless yet I was just too puzzled not to speak.

Chris:  "I don't understand!?!  You ARE a lawyer."

The lawyer was quiet again, so I asked it as a question.

Chris:  "How can you hate lawyers when you ARE one? 

The lawyer waited quite awhile before speaking.

Lawyer:  Chris, if you're anything like me, you'll understand when you get there. 

The conversation ended.

* * * 20 Years Later We Agree * * *

I've been working in the legal field now for more than 20 years since that conversation.  

As a Rhode Island lawyer, I am bound by a Professional Code of Ethical Conduct among other things.  There are things that I shouldn't say or do and there are things that I can't say or do despite the right to Free Speech guaranteed to all of us by the United States Constitution.  The layperson would be amazed. 

* * * A Message for Roger * * *

For a point of reference only, the lawyer's name was Roger.

Hopefully he's still alive and hopefully he is in tune enough with today's "internet" that he reads this article.

First, to this great lawyer.

Roger, I was like you.  I understand!

* * * A Message for Readers * * *

Now, to my readers I offer this.

You may not understand this statement until you meet with me.

If you like lawyers, you probably won't like me.

With that said, I can tell you that as a Rhode Island Lawyer who has focused my practice exclusively in the area of divorce and family law, I cannot make your problems go away.  No lawyer can!  Yet some lawyers may tell you they can to get you as a client.

Lawyers can't make your problems go away because fundamentally they are your problems.  Only you can take responsibility for those challenges in your life.  Only you truly have the power to resolve those challenges by your decisions.

However, I can tell you that I can help you understand and get through your Rhode Island divorce or family law challenges by working with you either as your Coach or as your Representative.

* * *  Your Divorce Coaching Program * * *

Roger's words were invaluable.  Today, they are the powerful force motivating the continued growth of your Family Law Coaching program.  

I call it Your Program because it is designed specifically for you.  It is designed to teach you, train you, advise you, inform you, and save you time and money in the areas of divorce and family law.

As Your Coaching Program continues to evolve, it will continue to work faster for you, become more economical for you, and become more helpful for you.

Whatever you choose to believe, there is one thing you can know with certainty. I am one lawyer trying to make a difference for YOU with a new and innovative way of practice designed by hard work, my belief that you can do more than you believe you can at this moment, and your willingness to be open to something new that works. 

What can Your Coaching Program help you with?  Here is a brief list . . .

Rhode Island Divorces & Legal Separations, Rhode Island Child Support Establishment, Modifications, Collections and Terminations, Rhode Island Child Custody Matters and Child Custody Modifications, Rhode Island Petitions to Enforced Marital Settlement Agreements and Property Settlement Agreements, Preparing Pre-Nuptual Agreements and Ante-Nuptual Agreements in Rhode Island, RI Petitions to Move Out of State with Minor Children, Petitions to Establish Paternity in Rhode Island, Rhode Island Motions to Adjudge In Contempt and Defense of those Contempt Motions, Protection from Abuse Petitions and Defense Against Such Petitions, Rhode Island Motions and Petitions to Establish, Modify or Terminate Visitation, RI Common Law Divorces and their Defense, Rhode Island Legal Rights, Rhode Island Family Court Procedures, 2nd Opinions about your Attorney on Rhode Island Divorce Cases, Pro Se Representation (i.e. Representing Yourself Appropriately in Family Court), and many more . . . 

Look for the Testimonials Section about Your Coaching Program which is coming soon.  Feel Free to Call Me for a low-cost Coaching Session!

Attorney Christopher A. Pearsall - Phone: (401) 632-6976

Rhode Island Divorce Coaching by RI Attorney Christopher Pearsall

Divorce Coaching has taken on several different meanings in the past few years.  There is a wide diversity between what one person means by a Divorce Coach as compared to what another person means.  Substantially, I have found that divorce coaches may (1) be a coach to help a person in a divorce move forward in their life after the divorce proceeding is over by helping the person being coached to focus on the promise that the future holds, or in another instance a person may (2) may be a coach for spouses going through a divorce so they can amicably resolve their emotional issues and realize that while their relationship doesn't work as husband and wife and divorce is going to occur, they can each move forward without hatred, looking at the promise of the future and the positive influence they can have on each other and/or their children.

 *  Meet a New Concept - Rhode Island's Legal Divorce Coach  *

The fact is, not everyone can afford a divorce lawyer, even with the affordability that I attempt to provide in my law practice.  Yet everyone should have access to some sort of professional legal assistance.  At the same time, professional legal services that take years of schooling and diligent effort are not without significant value and worthy of compensation.

However, these two issues do find a way to blend with one another with compromise between client and lawyer.  This is where you find the client seeking a lawyer for divorce coaching.  By engaging a Rhode Island divorce attorney who is willing to coach you through a divorce or family law situation, you are provided with valuable information that attorney has learned through practice and now passes on to you to help you handle your own divorce matter or to help you deal with the more crucial parts of the process such as the initial divorce filing, how the hearing should proceed, the timing of the interlocutory order that should enter following your divorce hearing, and the procedure for entry of the final judgment of divorce. 

With such coaching you spend time with the attorney who provides you with his or her knowledge and experience to try to guide you through the process without requiring the attorney to represent you in the process.  By removing the attorney from the representation portion of the divorce, you make the attorney available to coach others, you limit the divorce attorney's liability and you undertake your own representation with the help of a professional to guide you through it.  This, of course, results in a substantially reduced price since your legal divorce coach can assist you by telephone, in person or by email but does not have to dress for and travel to court, pay for parking, wait for your case to be called, and spend other valuable time that could be used helping other clients but which you might end up paying for if the attorney is left unavailable for other work.

The legal divorce coach is a new innovation I have yet to discover on the internet or through other colleagues and Rhode Island practitioners over the last decade.  However, it has recently become a growing part of my practice as more and more people seek legal guidance but not necessarily legal representation in the area of Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law.

Are you seeking legal guidance?  Do you desire to know your legal rights as a situation develops?  Do you need someone to help you along the way but not necessarily represent you?  Perhaps you are the perfect candidate for my Rhode Island Divorce and Family Law Coaching Program.

Feel free to call me to discuss it.  Clients will be taken on a first-come first coached basis and each person will be individually evaluated based upon his or her needs and the cost that would be associated with it.  No rates will be available over the telephone since rates will vary with each individual's needs as determined by the attorney after consultation.   A low-cost consultation of $50 is required for this new service offering.

I look forward to helping those in need of Rhode Island Divorce and Family law services in this new service offering.

Authored By:

Christopher A. Pearsall
Attorney-at-Law
70 Dogwood Drive, Suite 304
West Warwick, RI 02893

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Rhode Island Uncontested Divorce Kits are Problematic!

Recently I was approached by a client and his wife who had a truly uncontested divorce.  At least it was uncontested on the surface and so far it looks good.

Issues arose however when the couple wanted me to work with the "kit" they had purchased online to do their Rhode Island Divorce.

The "kit" was what I as a practicing divorce attorney* would call a standard packet of documents.  In fact, regrettably the couple had spent countless hours tailoring various documents and agreements to their own situation (as best they could) without the benefit of a qualified and licensed practitioner.

Now of course I understand the desire of any couple that is in agreement on major aspects of divorce to save money and want to put through their divorce without lawyers. . . who may tend to seem to complicate things and/or turn simple matters into adversarial battles.  Yet in my humble opinion relying upon forms purchased on the internet is generally a bad way to go.

Some form companies simply don't put the effort that is needed into keeping up with the state's laws, the actual practicalities of divorce practice in Rhode Island and the judges.  All three play a definitive roll in your divorce and how smoothly it will go and without an actual practitioner in the field to guide you, I highly doubt that any form company is going to take the time and care necessary to be informed on all these aspects in a timely fashion and then put them in a set of clear instructions for you.

To say the least I had to explain to the couple that it was better if they substantially discard their forms and retain me for a nominal amount for one of the parties to guide them through the process while they worked out their own agreement and I simply formalized it. 

Discarding the Rhode Island Uncontested Divorce Kit did several important things for these people.  It put them at ease that they had a Rhode Island Professional leading them through the process and it saved them time and energy worry whether they would get it right.

To those who can use a forms kit to take a Rhode Island Uncontested Divorce from beginning to end without hassle, anxiety, confusion and mistakes. . . I applaud you.  To those who want it done right by a competent professional at an affordable price, I'll gladly place my skills and forms head to head with the legal form companies regarding a Rhode Island Divorce every day of the week and twice on Sundays.

But don't take it from me, I have clients who will gladly speak with you.

Authored by:

Christopher A. Pearsall, Esquire
PEARSALL LAW ASSOCIATES
571 Pontiac Avenue
Cranston, RI  02910
Phone:  (401) 354-2369

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