If the truth be told, I'd rather be coaching. While there is absolutely no doubt that as a Rhode Island lawyer divorce coaching certainly isn't very profitable and I'd make considerably more money representing people in court, , I'd still rather be coaching.
Why?
First, it isn't all about money. Coaching is about helping people. I wanted to do something with my life that truly made a difference. I didn't want to make a difference just once or twice or even 5 out of 10 times. I wanted to make a positive difference virtually every time I tried to help someone in my divorce law practice. The fact is, most attorneys who regularly practice divorce in the State of Rhode Island don't have happy clients in divorces when they "represent" them. It's a sad reality but it's one that I've come to realize and accept rather than ignore.
Ultimately, unless you are just an angry spiteful person determined to hurt your spouse or deprive your spouse of what he or she may reasonably be entitled to in your marriage and you have tons of money to pay a lawyer to exact your revenge and your attorney does it for you, your attorney doesn't make a real difference even if they win the lion's share of the marital assets for you. If I did that for a client I'd simply be a legal hitman for hire or what I've referred to in the past colloquially as a "legal whore" simply doing whatever the client wants as long as it isn't illegal or violate a Rhode Island Attorney's Professional Code of Ethical Conduct.
Someone once said, "Do what makes you happy and the money will come!" Well, if simply making money is your driving force then you could be very happy being a scrupulous divorce lawyer. The mindset I've heard lawyers have is simply to view each client as a paycheck. In other words you must be disassociated from the people you represent. I suppose one can't be much more disassociated from a client than that.
If money is your motivator. It wouldn't matter whether you do your very best and your client still loses his or her proverbial shirt in the divorce or not as long as you got paid. After all, you may have made a bunch of money and you did your job to the best of your ability.
For my part, though it's a tough economy and while I could use money like anyone else, Money is simply not a motivator that makes me happy. From my teen years until well into my adult years I've had plenty of jobs. I've hated just about all of them. When we spend so much of our lifetime trading our time for money working in one job or another that we may dislike, it isn't good for anyone's mindset to do something you hate day in and day out.
That's precisely why I created divorce coaching. Lawyers, in my humble opinion, should not thrive financially by encouraging or creating unnecessary conflict in divorce and family situations, especially when they could just as easily resolve the conflict.
So I saw the need for a solution, not for my own financial benefit but because people and families need help moving on, especially in divorce situations.
People need help. Sometimes that help comes from a licensed therapist. Sometimes it may come from low-cost legal services supplemented by the state. Sometimes people need that help to come from lawyers who practice divorce because spouses place so much trust in the lawyers that they seek counsel from.
Coaches in baseball want to win the game but they want to do so fairly and within the rules. Yet ultimately no one truly wins in family court when the players are at odds and they are willing to cheat the rules. Divorce can be very emotional, it can be very costly, it involves separation, it involves a change in life and divisions of assets and debts so both parties can move forward in life.
Yet coaches want the players to do their best and be levelheaded. That's what I wanted to bring to the divorce process. My goal was to do what is possible to extract the hostile emotions from the divorce and coach people that there best interests and the best results in family court rely upon parties who reach compromise.
After all, what makes the most sense? Does it make sense to have conflict, expensive attorney's fees and intense emotions OR would it make more sense to reach a resolution both parties can live with, avoid unnecessary lawyer fees and reduce the stress of intense emotions so that they are manageable and you can move on with your life without all the controversy tearing at your life, your heart and your bank account? It would seen the answer is obvious.
Yet most attorneys don't like my Coaching because it doesn't make them $4,000 or more per client. The coaching concept doesn't allow an attorney to leave the client in the dark about the law and legal concepts. Instead, the Coaching Approach to Divorce works because it is educational by it's very nature. No longer are you clueless about your divorce. You are no longer handing over your case to a person you barely know because it is too complicated for you to handle and an experienced professional needs to handle all the complicated legal stuff and you are left to trusting that person. HOGWASH!
People aren't stupid! Most people can be educated about their legal rights and in my professional opinion this is something that is sorely lacking in our dealings as lawyers with the members of our state and those who will come before the family court. We should all have the right to at least try to understand our rights. Without information, how can we even hope to make the right decisions for ourselves. Divorces are too crucial to simply trust that someone we are paying is going to protect us 100%. The best person to protect you is YOU!
In the end, with a little coaching you can understand most aspects of the law and your rights in a divorce situation. After all, divorce is all about your life, right? Who knows your life better than you? No one! So with just a little help and a lot less in attorney's fees do you think you could make the best decision for your the resolution of your divorce? ABSOLUTELY!
Don't become a victim of the system, lawyers, injustice, conflict, hatred, large attorneys fees, and ultimately ignorance. Find out what you are getting yourself into and how you can truly win in the family court by taking control of your own life and your own divorce by even a single coaching session.
If 1-one hour Coaching Session for $135.00 could save you $1,000, $2,500 or $5,000 would it have been worth it? If your answer is Yes, then by all means call me at 401-632-6976 and find out what virtually every other attorney practicing Divorce in the State of Rhode Island doesn't want you to know about.
This program has been designed over 5 1/2 years and it has been offered for three and one-half years (3 1/2). To date it has recorded a whopping 100% Success Rate. Set up your $135 session and discover why I've received more thank you cards and testimonials in the last 3 years than in my entire 23 year history working in the legal field.
My phone line is open. You'll be greeted with Understanding, A Smile, Respect, No Sales Pitch and No Hidden Catches! I invite you to call me at (401) 632-6976. As a matter of practice legal questions are not answered over the telephone unless a paid advice session is arranged via a one-hour paid telephone conference.
Divorce Factors in Rhode Island - Advice from Rhode Island Divorce Lawyers should include the X-Factors
Are you curious as to why most divorce lawyers are unable to answer your divorce questions with a great degree of accuracy. This lack of accuracy is due to several factors. I call them the "X Factors." Some lawyers may not discuss these factors with you, but it is important that you understand they exist. Yet these divorce factors are just as important as the rules that govern the Rhode Island family courts themselves.
The divorce "X Factors" are simply unknown factors. A divorce lawyer usually doesn't know or can't predict these factors at the time you ask him or her your divorce or family law questions. These factors are extremely likely to have a substantial impact on the answer to many of your questions.
Using Rhode Island Divorce as the most common example, the "X Factors" are:
1) The Judge that your divorce will be assigned to;
2) Your spouse's actions or reactions during the divorce;
3) Whether your spouse will hire a divorce lawyer and who that lawyer will be;
4) The actions your spouse's lawyer may take during the divorce.
The Rhode Island Divorce X-Factors are crucial for clients to know and to take seriously, not just in passing because they have a great impact on your divorce as it proceeds.
As your divorce begins and all the way to its outcome, keep these factors in mind.
Why?
The fact is that divorce is not a fun experience even when it is as amicable as you can make it. Most Rhode Island divorces have their bumps, road blocks, hurdles and major challenges. Often times these things leave a client frustrated and angry. The first and most natural place where this anger gets focused is on your Rhode Island Divorce lawyer because he or she is the only part of the process that you have chosen to take you through the divorce process. On top of everything, you are pay this lawyer to get you to the end of your divorce as quickly and easily as possible.
So what happens? You hit those bumps, roadblocks or major challenges and you become frustrated at the only part of the process you even remotely have control of... your lawyer. It's at this point that before you express your anger to your lawyer that you remember the X Factors.
Remembering these factors reminds you that, there are more things outside both your control and your RI Divorce lawyer's control than there are things actually within your control.
By remembering the X Factors, you can approach your divorce lawyer and see how you can both deal with all the factors that are present and perhaps turn the situation to your advantage, rather than getting angry at your divorce lawyer and perhaps damaging your relationship with your lawyer. A relationship between an lawyer and client in a divorce can be very touchy. Blaming your attorney for the direction of your case when the X factors may have pushed your divorce off course can lead to a slower divorce and less communication between you and your lawyer.
For the sake of your own divorce, remember the X factors and your divorce may go much smoother.
If you are concerned about your divorce lawyer's performance in your case, feel free to call me and set up a second opinion advice session to discuss what has been done and review the important case documents. Together we'll discuss not only the factors, but what you have seen, heard and the tact your lawyer has taken to give you appropriate feedback as to whether you need to give concern to your lawyer's performance.
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